WHY I HAVE BEEN MIA

Hello Ladies,

Firstly, my heart goes out to Sarah...

I have very quicly read posts.... and I think I am up-to-date, but I don't have the time or energy to reply to everyone...

But I will tell you this -- the last 6 months of my life have been hell...

From Bruno not taking any parental leave (on top of mothers getting 1 yr maternity leave fully paid, fathers are allowed 5 weeks) + he has taken NO vacation....

Erika goes to pre-school, and she saw all of her friends during the summer, go on vacation, cottage, lake, camping,....

She got fucking squat !!!

I have been really upset about this for Erika, and stressing the topic with Bruno

He won't hear me -- his job is demanding...

Fine

ooops, forgot, yeah, he did take Erika camping -- but he brought another woman !!!

He assures me I'm crazy to think there could be anything, she is married, and I've met her

But what bothers me is that my daugther gets to do family activities with another woman, and not with her parents

That was a week-end I had friends visiting from FRANCE and I was getting the house painted on the Monday

So Bruno helped move all the furniture, and then left with Erika

So My friends arrived, in this mess, and no Erika

They didn't stay very long, they seemed very insulted that my husband had left, with my daugther....

So Bruno did take the Monday off of that week, yeah -- so vacation time, 1 day

with another woman...

He did go meet her on a few occasion while biking with the kids, or stuff like that... Erika tells me : )

I went to my sisters wedding - Erika and I arrived the Saturday... Bruno was driving the Sunday

and I called home in the evening, Bruno tells me he invited her over for dinner,

and the next day, at the wedding, for which he arrived 40 minutes late,

he tells me

OOOOOH, anyways --- I'm not bothered that he is friends with a woman, it bothers me that he goes out of his way to do things with her, when he can't do the same for me

I'm going through some medical treatments -- and whenever I get home, he acts like I have taken for-ever....

Same with one of the ultrasounds when I was pregnant, he saw he missed a call while I was in the room, and he cursed.... for fuck's sakes...

He has lost 50 pounds, bikes excessively, gym and so on....

He is never home, and I feel very single...

I keep asking why he acts this way, and he tells me it's all in my head...

I tried to put myself under the microscope, but tonite, I was talking to a naighbour, and she was asking me if Bruno was ok... she said it herself, Bruno has lost so much weight, and is never home

He is sooooo impatient, and aggressive, he's become verbally abusive....

To a minimum, but I surely don't want my kids exposed... He has lost his temper with both kids in the last 5 days

Erika has been saying things like

Bruno thinks, but of course, that I'm brainwashing Erika.... which is absurd, as my mom tried to get me to lie to my dad - in their divorce settlement . I would NEVER do that to my child.

So that is where I am at.... The last 2 months have been him barking at me, and putting me down

I believe he is heading for another depression... and he is over-worked

Which is by all means no excuse, so I just don't talk to him, and let him be

Step-in when needed be when he is temper gets too much and the kids are around...

Voilà -- xxx Gen